February

Snow!

Snow...

...And More Snow...

So I intended to write a message by the end of February, but only having 28 days obviously messed me up!

The highlights for February was all the snow! It just kept coming and coming and, like a number of people, we were up on the roof clearing what we could. Thankfully there was no damage or leaks in the house so we're happy about that!

Ed up on the roof...

Me shoveling off the roof...

Mid-February was Valentine's Day...a day to pause and tell those you care most about that you love them. Of course we sent a little package to Dan in Bristol (doesn't matter how old he gets). And Ed and I went out to dinner on Sunday. Nothing too fancy. Our Valentine's gift to each other, though, was an overnight to Foxwoods later in February.

A nice home cooked meal for Valentine's Day.

And that's exactly what we did February 27-28. We headed down on Sunday and stopped by Misquamicut on the way. It was very windy and cold, so we didn't stay long on the beach.

At Foxwoods, we stayed at the MGM Grand in a director's suite which was certainly NOT worth the price. Several years ago we stayed in a suite at the Grand Pequot and that was lavish. This was more like a slightly larger deluxe room. I mean, it was nice...but not what you'd expect for the price or hype and I would recommend to others to go to the Grand Pequot instead.

MGM Grand. We were on floor 26 (four from the top) at the end.

The bedroom.

The sitting room.

The view looking straight down.

The panoramic view.

Regardless, though, we had a great time. Ed would love to play Blackjack, but at $15 minimum per hand, he stuck with the slots. And me, I like the penny slots. There was a particular slot machine that I liked and we played on those for almost 2 hrs on Monday and the machines were good to us as well. So that was fun! It was really good to get away and just "play" for a bit.

Our low point came after we got home. During the weekend Ed has a slight sore throat, but nothing that slowed him down. By Tuesday, though, the sore throat was quite painful and he went to the doctor's where they ruled out strep. By Wednesday, though, the pain was worse (he could barely swallow or speak) and so he went to see Dr. Bowers (his oncologist) who immediately sent him down to the ER at Cooley because he had an abscess that they were afraid would end up blocking off the airway.

By 5 PM, Ed called me to let me know they were transferring him to Baystate since there was no Ears/Nose/Throat (ENT) doctor available at Cooley. So I rushed to Cooley from work and followed the ambulance to Baystate (yes, they transferred him via ambulance which was a good thing or we'd be sitting in triage for hours!). We ended up in the Baystate ER until around 9 PM when they decided they were going to admit him. The abscess wasn't big enough to drain (without taking risks) but was big enough not to send him home. They put him on antibiotics and would have an ENT assess him in the morning. It was about 11:30 PM by the time they got Ed admitted and I was finally on my way home.

Thursday I spent several hours at Baystate visiting with Ed. He was certainly improving and could talk and eat. It appeared the antibiotics were working. By Friday morning they gave him another dose of antibiotics and sent him home. He's certainly doing much better--still a slight sore throat, but he's eating and feeling MUCH better.

Dinner together Thursday night.

My $5 dinner.

It's hard to believe that it was just a week ago that we were off to Foxwoods having fun and in this short week, we've been to the ER, admitted to Baystate, and then back home again. Can't wait to see the bills for this little adventure. Thank God we've got good health insurance. And I'll tell you, the Baystate ER was a trip. Thankfully, somehow, we got a "room" in the ER so we weren't in the hallway for 4 hours like 50% of the patients. Really crazy and they said it was nothing compared to a Friday or Saturday night!

And, I'm sure you're wondering...there is no change with Ed's cancer. He continues his chemo treatment every two weeks (although he missed his treatment last week). The tumors continue to remain at bay (not getting larger, but not shrinking either).

Just about a week and a half ago, a good friend of my mom's passed away suddenly--Peter Galante. He was 57 and it happened suddenly. Which is another reminder of how precious every day is. Ed got his diagnosis about 14 months ago and we didn't know how long we had. But here's Peter, who is a year younger than Ed, and dies totally unexpectedly. Just a reminder to live every day to the fullest and always tell your loved ones how much they mean to you since we do not know when our time on this earth is up.

So we're glad it's March and spring is coming. I noticed last nite at 5:30 that it was still light out. The days are getting longer!! And next weekend we change the clocks (spring forward!) and, even better, Dan is coming home for a few days during his spring break!! That's the best part. We haven't seen him since early January so I'm really looking forward to having him home for a few days.

May you have a meaningful Lent and a Happy St. Patty's Day! {{Hugs}} to all!

At the Beach (2/27)

January Post

Happy New Year! I hope you all had a wonderful holiday. We certainly enjoyed Christmas and New Year's with the best part having Dan home. It's hard to believe we are now on the other side of the holidays. All the time and energy we put into the holidays and bam--gone before you know it!

Dan putting his decorations on the tree.

The holidays were good to us, though. Dan was only home for just over a week, so that was hard. And he had studio work to do over the holidays. I gave him Christmas Eve and Christmas Day off, but the rest of the time he was home he had to work on this book for studio. We were hoping he could fit in a trip to Long Island and also go to Berkshire East to go skiing with his Uncle Mike, but unfortunately neither happened.

Ed on his laptop

We spent Christmas Eve with Ed's family in Ware. Little William who turned 2 in November was so much fun to see. He is such a cutie!! Christmas day was spent with my family in Amherst. The kids are certainly getting older (the youngest is 7) but it was a fun day. The week after Christmas we went to dinner with Dan's godfather John and his wife Emily at the Steaming Tender in Palmer. That was a very nice night out with good company and exceptional food. If you haven't been there, I recommend it.

Dan and Grandma

Ed continued his biweekly chemo treatments...no change there. He had a CT scan last Monday and I was going to accompany him to his appointment on Thursday to get the results, but Dr. Bowers' office called on Tuesday to report no changes. So we continue the same treatment and Ed continues to have no serious side effects (just body aches, but don't we all have those at this age?)!

On January 7th we went to see Cake Boss with my sister Cathy, her kids Lexi and Nick, and "just-like-family" DeeDee () and her daughters Emma and Amanda. We had a good time and it was a fun evening.

Ed with "the girls" (Emma, Lexi, Amanda) at Cake Boss.

On the evening of MLK Day, Ed and I had a nice dinner out at Judie's Restaurant in Amherst. Can you believe Ed has never eaten there before? Another very good dinner and reasonably priced!

So January and post-holidays are a bit more calm. Dan is back in Bristol, returning after new year's since he's taking a class during January break (plus now that he's got an apartment, he was paying rent regardless). It makes sense that he's knocking off a class, but I miss him terribly and wish he could have been home longer than 10 days...but I guess I need to be thankful for those 10 days!

The tree was taken down a week ago and Christmas decorations are all put away. We're pretty much staying inside out of the cold. The snow has been incredible and we're possibly getting more this week. Thankfully Ed has a plow so he does the driveway and we've got a snow blower so he does the walkways as well. Me, I shovel the front and back decks (really, I do!)!

Me, shoveling...okay posing for pictures really.

Ed

In the first week of February, the Cancer Care program at Cooley is having a "Winter Celebration". It's supposed to be a nice evening of fun and food so Ed RSVPed that we'd be going. In the meantime, we enjoy the slower pace of winter. Ed continues his biweekly treatments and life continues to treat us well. We hope the same for all of you.

Remembering Dad

Today marks the 21st anniversary of my Dad's passing. I can't believe it's been 21 years...so much time has passed and it's sad how much of our lives he has missed. I do believe he watches over us and guides us and smiles when he knows we're happy. He would so enjoy his grandkids, but grandma makes up with enough love and spoiling for both of them! Miss you Dad! Hope you're resting in peace and having a good ole time til we can meet again!

Me and my father (June, 1984).
He always loved a party and he loved to dance!

My father with Dan (1988).
Unfortunately, Dan lost both his grandfathers before he was three years old so he never really knew either of them.

One Year Later

Yes, today is the one-year anniversary of Ed's diagnosis. It was exactly one year ago that we sat with Dr. Berkman and he informed us that, even without a biopsy, he knew it was cancer. Of course, Ed and I had our suspicions before that, but it was the day that the words were spoken and it was confirmed. I still remember that day so clearly. I tried to be strong for Ed and not show my emotions. He just sat there matter-of-fact, "Yup, I knew it!" The enormity and uncertainty of it. What a scary and sad day that was.

But the bright spot is that 1 year later, Ed is still here. At the time, we never thought about "one-year later". So tonight we celebrate and look back on how thankful we are that we had this year and that we are thankful for those like Dr. Bowers and his team that have helped us achieve this milestone.

Life is good... And here's to hoping we're able to celebrate again next year!

Happy Thanksgiving

Okay, so I'm really bad about updating this blog. But I've been working on my Christmas newsletter and since I'm directing folks to this blog, I guess I should have some more recent updates.

I guess I'm not inclined to write much because there's nothing new to report. That's a good thing, right?

On Halloween we had our nieces and nephews over. Everyone brought some food for a potluck dinner and then the kids went trick-or-treating on our street.

Here they are in their costumes (L-R Lexi, Ali, Matt, Nick).


For Thanksgiving we went to my mothers. Here we all are for our annual picture posing around the table before dinner.

(L-R: Ed, Jeanne, Tim, Cathy, Dave, Theresa,
Mom, Dan, Nick, Lexi, Ali, Marion, Matt, Mike)

Today, Black Friday, I am not being as productive as I'd like. Dan is doing schoolwork (never ending) and Ed and I are just putzing around. Shouldn't we be putting Christmas lights up or something? Seems too early for me. I'm not feeling motivated to bake, but since I've got a pound of butter softening on the counter, I suppose I should go whip up some cookies.

Tomorrow night I am attending my 30th class reunion. That should be fun! Some of us have been reconnecting on Facebook, so it will be good to see folks in person. I can't believe it's been 30 years though--none of us are that old!!

Ed continues to do well. Still has his biweekly chemotherapy treatments. No changes there. He seems to have slowed down quite a bit and has many aches and pains, but I can't tell if that's attributed to the cancer or him just getting old!!

So I guess I should go try to be productive and knock a few things off my list. I guess this means I can checkoff "update the blog", right?!

Since it's Thanksgiving, and as we approach our 1 year anniversary of Ed's cancer diagnosis, it is important to pause and thank God that we are still fighting this disease. I would have never thought a year ago about where we would be and whether Ed would be with us or not. But I do realize, you never know when life on this earth will end of any of us. So cherish each day and make the most of it!

God Bless and Happy Thanksgiving!

Fall

I love fall! I love the crisp, cool air and the fall colors and the leaves that rustle under your feet. I love apples and pumpkins and squash and corn mazes and fall fairs. And I love that it's my birthday too! It's not about getting older, it's about spoiling yourself, and letting others do so, for one day out of the year!! And since it's fall...time to apply a more fall-like design to this blog!

So today is my birthday and we were planning to go to the Big E. I love the Big E even though it rarely changes from year-to-year. Maybe that's what I like--the tradition of the Big E. I remember when I was in junior high and high school, I could always take one day off from school and play hooky and go to the Big E. My mother worked in West Springfield and had to drive right down Memorial Ave past the entrance and she would drop me and a girlfriend off on her way to work. At 8:30 in the morning only the cow barns are open! We got to spend the entire day at the fair and then she'd pick us up on her way home from work sometime late afternoon/early evening. What a tradition and I always had a great time! And back then you'd get so much free stuff from the state houses!! I still remember when my girlfriend Val and I bought matching Barretta t-shirts (TV show in the late 70s with Robert Blake and a cockatoo). We actually wore them to school the next day thinking we were so cool!!

Anyhow with tropical storm Nicole upon us and the heavy rain, we ended up deciding not to go today. Yes, I'm a little disappointed--but not really. Truth be told, if I really wanted to pay $40 to get into the Big E ($15 per person + $10 parking), and walk around with an umbrella and raincoat and dodge the rain, Ed would have gone. But I like strolling around, checking things out...so we decided to just stay home today and be a bum. There will be next year for sure!!

Besides, last weekend we went to the southern coast of Maine and so that served as a mini vacation. We have never been (I know, hard to believe). But a friend of ours has a place in Wells and offered it to us for the weekend. So we got out of work early on Friday and off we went. We arrived sometime Friday night (I honestly don't remember what time) after hitting traffic on 495 (I should have known). Saturday was beautiful (in the 80s) so we ventured out, picked up some coffee and donuts from Congdonn's and then went to Wells Beach and Drakes Island beach and then to Kennebunkport. After dinner Saturday nite, we stopped by to see our dear friend Theresa who moved to Wells a short while ago. We had a great time visiting with her for a couple hours and then got together with her and Richard Sunday for breakfast/brunch. We then started the trip home and drove through Ogunquit on our way home. Sunday was a rainy, windy, cold day and it was already early afternoon so we just drove through town, down to Perkins Cove, and then down to the beach and checked out the surf before heading home. There was still so much to see and we weren't able to stop at the Front Porch and see our friend Dennis perform, nor did we really get a chance to walk around Ogunquit. I guess we'll save that for our next trip to Wells! Yes, we will plan to go back. We had a wonderful time. The area is beautiful and seeing Theresa and Richard was the cherry on top!

We do keep in touch with Dan and he's keeping quite busy with his studies. We haven't been back out to Bristol to see him since he officially moved into his apartment in August. We were thinking of going to visit him Columbus Day weekend, but he's decided he's coming home this weekend to see some sustainable/energy efficient buildings in Amherst for studio. So we'll play next weekend by ear. It's Ed's birthday so it will be his choice what he wants to do. It has become tradition that we head to Newport in October and do some shopping so we'll see!

And speaking of Ed, I know what you're all wondering...how is he? I mean, isn't that why I started this blog? To keep you all updated on his progress and his health? And now here all I'm doing is talking about fairs and vacations, etc. That's because we are blessed and this is what our lives are. Yes, Ed continues his biweekly chemo treatments. And he continues on Avastin and Xeloda (still not taking Irinotecean at this time). In October he should have another CT scan just to keep an eye on those tumors and make sure they're not getting any larger. At that time we can also assess whether we should reintroduce the Irinotecean or not. But, with the exception of a cold we both got, he continues to feel good. So we try to enjoy such things as fall fairs and visits to new places and old friends.

So with continued good thoughts, may you all have a wonderful fall and enjoy each day and appreciate it as the gift it is!

Where we stayed in Wells. Looking across the Marsh from Atlantic Ave. (Thank you, VP)


The view Sunday morning from the deck of VP's place.

Ed at Drake's Island Beach. The day was beautiful and warm; the water was cold, though!

Ed at Pier 77 in Cape Porpoise, Kennebunkport

Jeanne at Kennebunk Lower Village--shopping!!

Followed a couple asses on our way home!! (Sorry, couldn't resist!)

Labor Day Weekend

Okay, so we can all agree that I'm bad about updating this blog?! It has been on my "to do" list for several weeks and since it's a three-day weekend, I'm committing myself to get through my "to do" list.

The good news is that I'm not compelled to update this on a frequent basis because there's not much to report. Ed continues on his biweekly chemo treatments and doesn't have any serious side effects.

He had another CT scan on 8/9 and this showed no change. No new tumors and no change in existing tumors (same size--not larger or smaller). As you'll recall, we eliminated the Irinotecan in June to give Ed a break. Since there has been no change, we could reintroduce the Irinotecan or try something else. After some discussion, we decided to just stay with the Xeloda and Avastin. We can't ask that Ed feel any better. He has so few side effects (and nothing serious) and he looks and feels good. So we figured we'd enjoy this "good" period for a little while longer (enjoy it while it lasts). If we introduce a new drug, we might not be as lucky with side effects and since there's no reason to make a change at this time, we decided to wait.

Of course, some of you might be asking why we don't want to attack the tumors more aggressively? Well, Dr. Bowers has always been clear that Ed won't be cured of cancer. Instead we are prolonging his life. So the fact that he is living a good life and the tumors are not getting any worse, we really couldn't ask for much more. So we'll enjoy it while it lasts and cross the next bridge when we get there.

For those of you who don't see Ed, you frequently ask me how he's doing and my response is "He's doing great!" and I mean that. I'm not avoiding your question or just trying to respond positively. It's the truth! Except for the biweekly appointments, the regular prescriptions to fill and take, and the aches and pains he experiences, there is little evidence of cancer in our lives. We are blessed at this time and we can't be more thankful.

Here it is Labor Day weekend--summer is over. At the beginning of this diagnosis, I didn't think beyond Dan returning from Italy. My goal was for Ed to survive that long. And here we are with two vacations at the beach behind us and Dan back to Bristol and starting his 5th year towards his Master. I no longer think in terms of "I hope Ed makes it to the next..." (insert whatever milestone). Instead we are living life and I'm reminded that none of us know when our time on this Earth will end. It could be tomorrow, next month, next year, whenever... And as much as I'd like to tell you that I live each day as if it were my last and I make good decisions about how to use my time, that is not always true. Life happens and that is what living is about. The good, the bad, the people who touch our lives and, more importantly, those lives we touch.

Life is good! And now, some pictures to share what we've been up to the past couple months!

Where Ed plays golf, they had a Hawaiian Shirt/Wacky Outfit night. Can you believe Ed did NOT win?

We moved Dan's furniture into his apartment at the end of July. Here Ed and Dan are having some lunch after the work was done.

Panoramic shot of Dan's bedroom. Door to kitchen is to the right.

Panoramic shot of Dan's bedroom.

Ed hung up the Hummingbird feeder since we've got 2-3 that are always visiting our flowers. This picture shows two of them visiting the feeder.

Auntie Gingy celebrated her 80th birthday in August. Her kids threw her a party at Barnes in Westfield.

Ed and Theresa at Gingy's party. CHEESE!

Cassie, Dan, and Grandma on the front porch of the cottage. (August 2010)

Uncle Eddie with Amanda and Lexi at the beach (August 2010).

July

Is it really the last week of July? Okay, so I'm not getting much better at updating this blog! I guess about once a month is better than not at all, right?

Highlights since my last posting was a week at the beach in early July. It was the beginning of the 2010 heat wave and we couldn't have been at a better place. Every day was sunny and beautiful and HOT! It was so hot that the sand burned your feet and we spent a lot of time in the water trying to stay cool.

Me and Ed

Dan and his girlfriend Cassie stayed with us a few days before they headed to Bristol RI for fireworks and Bristol's infamous 4th of July parade. My sister Cathy and her kids came down for several days, Mom joined us for a day, and my sister Theresa and her kids came down for a day as well. It was a great time and I just love the beach. If only I could figure out how to afford a place at the beach, not work, and still have income, I'd be all set!!

Dan and Cassie

One day Ed and I took a day off from going to the beach just to give ourselves a break from the sun and heat. We headed over to downtown Westerly but didn't stay long because it was so hot. We then headed over to Foxwoods where we could play some slots and where I had to wear a sweater because the air conditioning was so cold--but such a relief! So we enjoyed a day playing slots, having dinner out, and although we didn't hit it big, Ed tells me we came out slightly ahead.

Wilcox Park, downtown Westerly, RI

So vacation was terrific and we're looking forward to a long weekend at the beach in August when my Mom rents a place for two weeks. Unfortunately we can't go for more than a long weekend since our delay in Italy ate up an extra week of my vacation time (somehow I don't think anyone is feeling sorry for me though!).

On the cancer front, Ed is still doing well. He continues with his biweekly chemo and his next appointment is next week. He'll then have another CT scan the week of 8/9 and then assess the next short-term plan. He is still responding well to the chemo such that after his treatment he goes directly to the golf course and gets some practice in before he plays as part of his weekly golf league.

The last week or so he has had a swollen ankle. Not sure what that's attributed to and if it has anything to do with the cancer or chemo, but he's icing and elevating it (once in a while) and has used an ankle brace the last few days which seems to help.

Other than that, we are slowing getting Dan what he needs for his apartment in Bristol. He has already brought some things out and we're planning a trip out probably next weekend to bring his desk, dresser, mattress, bike, etc.--the big stuff that requires the truck!

Dan's apartment in Bristol--the first floor of this house.

Ed, Cassie,and Dan outside his apartment.
There's a Portuguese bakery at the corner, just two houses down (that white building in front of Ed). YUM!

So life is good and we can't complain (won't do us any good anyhow). Stay cool and enjoy the summer!!

Summertime

Happy Summer! How I love summer and wish I could spend the entire time at the beach! It's funny how with each season you spend your time differently. Summer days are longer but somehow I still can't fit in everything I need to get done. Maybe it's because I want to spend all of my time outside, but things like cleaning and groceries still need to get done. Oh well, enough about that.

So I've heard from 4 of you that you read this blog! I guess I can't let down ALL my fans and not continue to keep this blog updated. Of course, most of you are reviewing this to get updates on how Ed is doing with his cancer treatments. The good news is that there's not much to report.

Ed had his biweekly chemo treatment this week. This is the second one without Irinotecan and all continues to go well. His appts are much shorter without the Irinotecan and so this week after his appt he got my car inspected and the oil changed and then he went to play golf (he's in a golf league and plays every week). Still the occasional body aches, but don't we all experience those? And he thinks his hair is getting thicker which makes him quite happy.

And that's my cancer update! No news is good news and we're certainly not complaining. In other random news...

On Memorial Day weekend, Ed and Dan replaced the slider in our kitchen. It's been on the list for a long time so I'm excited that it's finally done. Of course, this picture doesn't show it all done with the trim, but that's done now as well.



And while the boys worked on that, I made my flag cake since Dan requested it.



Last Saturday, Dan and I stopped at my sister Cathy's. With the help of Momma Jean, Cathy, Nick, and Amanda, we picked some fresh, yummy, sweet strawberries.



I then stopped at Atkins and got some rhubard and tried out a new Strawberry Rhubard Squares recipe. Something special for Father's Day. The boys loved it and something different from the traditional pie. (Thanks Theresa for the pan...it was the perfect size!)



And for Father's Day, Ed enjoyed the Lemon-cello and Chocolate Rum that Dan brought back from Italy.







So what can I say. We're boring! But I'll continue to keep you updated and share our boredom with you. Drop me an email or leave a comment to let me know you're still out there! Enjoy the summertime! We certainly will!